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We all learn something about ourselves in difficult times. For some the lesson is reassuring - no matter what the setback or scenario, certain people always seem to remain positive and maintain their emotional balance. Yet for others, adversity provides the opportunity to slip into mental spiral that can be harder to recover from than the original setback itself.  The ability to bounce back from adversity – known as “resilience” - is looked at as both highly valuable and a little mysterious. While it’s sometimes looked at as a special trait enjoyed only by an extraordinary few, resiliency is actually something that can be developed with a conscious effort.

Some psychologists, such as Dr. Robert Brooks of Harvard Medical School, look at the ability to bounce back from adversity as a mindset – one that defines the way in which we understand and approach all aspects of our life. He states his rational for this view by saying;

“The reason I do so is my strong belief that mindsets can be changed, that they do not have to remain fixed ideas that are cast in stone. I realize that many people have held on to certain self-defeating ideas for years, but with insight, courage, and support these ideas can be changed.”

There’s not doubt that enhancing your ability to bounce back quickly will change your outlook in business, relationships and life in general. The question is, How can you consciously improve your resilience?

Through her research, Suzanne Kobasa teaches that to truly improve your resiliency, you must learn to embrace the 3-C’s. Mastering all three can help you find balance in difficult times and give you the strength to overcome them.  If you’re facing a setback or difficult situation, reflect on the following and you’ll be one step closer to becoming a more resilient person.

The 3-C’s: Keys to Becoming More Resilient

Challenge

View change as a chance to grow. Focus on the positive and build from there. Successful people appreciate that change is a constant in life and interpret change as a challenge to confront and master rather than as a stress to avoid.

Control

Believe you can change your situation for the better and act on it. Focus on what you can control, instead of concentration on things that are outside of your influence. It is only natural that you will feel more stressed when you attempt to alter uncontrollable circumstances. Stay focused and spend your energy on things you can control.

Commitment

Be passionate about your pursuits and remember the bigger picture. When you have a purpose, when you are guided by a vision, you never lose sight of why you are doing what you are doing. When this happens, an energy and passion is triggered that provides meaning and lessens the negative impact of stressful situations.